Exclusive: अमेरिकी नेपाली समुदायमा दिनानुदिन बढ्दो घरेलु हिंसा र त्यसबाट विभत्स हत्यासमेत हुन थालेपछि गैरआवासीय नेपाली संघ राष्ट्रिय समन्वय परिषद (एनआरएन एनसिसी) अमेरिकाले घरेलु हिंसा सचेतना कार्यक्रमको भर्चुवल संवाद शुरू गरेको छ। उक्त संवादमा प्यानेलिष्टहरू हड्सन स्पिक्स अगेंस्ट सेक्सुवल भायलेन्सकि निर्देशक एवं एनआरएन आईसिसीकी पूर्व अन्तराष्ट्रीय महिला उपाध्यक्ष डा. विष्णुमाया परियार, वासिंगटन डिसीकी पहिलो अमेरिकी नेपाली महिला वकिल (अधिवक्ता) बन्दिता शर्मा दाहाल र घरेलु र यौन हिंसा रोकथाम सम्बन्धी संघसंस्थामा परामर्शदाता रहेका संचारकर्मी प्रदीप परियार थापाले अमेरिकी नेपाली समाजमा घरेलु हिंसा बढ्नुको कारणहरूको चर्चा गर्दै सतर्कता र समाधानका विषयमा प्रकाश पारेका थिए। एनआरएन एनसिसी अमेरिकाकी महिला उपाध्यक्ष सुनिता कंडेलले सहजीकरण गरेको संवादमा एनआरएनए एनसिसी अमेरिकाको प्रेसिडेंट डा. अर्जुन बन्जाडेले संघले घरेलु हिंसाबाट पीडित नेपालीहरूका लागि हेल्पलाईन तत्काल शुरू गर्ने प्रतिवद्दता र जानकारी दिएका थिए। हरेक ३ जनामा १ महिला र हरेक ९ जनामा १ जना पुरूष घरेलु हिंसाबाट पिडित हुने कुरा अमेरिकाको घरेलु हिंसासम्बन्धी राष्ट्रिय गठबन्धन (NCADV) को तथ्यांकले देखाउँछ भने वुमन रिहाव्लिटेसन सेन्टर नेपालको सन् २०२२ को तथ्यांक अनुसार घरेलु हिंसा सम्वन्धी प्रहरीमा रिपोर्ट गरिएका मद्दाहरू मध्ये ६५ प्रतिशत हिंसा महिला माथि हुने गरेको छ। त्यसैगरी, ७७ प्रतिशत घरेलु हिंसा श्रीमानबाट हुने गरेकोछ भने ९० प्रतिशत घरेलु हिंसा गर्ने पिडक पुरूष हुने गरेकोछ।
उक्त भर्चुवल संवादको जुम र संघको फेसवुक पेजमा प्रत्यक्ष (लाईभ) प्रशारण गरिएको थियो, हेर्नुहोस्ः
घरेलु हिंसा किन हुन्छ?
घरेलु हिंसा महिला र पुरूष दुबैमाथि घट्न सक्छ। अमेरिकामा हरेक २० मिनेटमा घरेलु हिंसा घट्नुकासाथै वार्षिक एक करोड महिला र पुरूष घरेलु हिंसाबाट पिडित हुने जनाईएकोछ। हरेक ३ जनामा १ महिला र हरेक ९ जनामा १ जना पुरूष घरेलु हिंसाबाट पिडित हुने कुरा अमेरिकाको घरेलु हिंसासम्बन्धी राष्ट्रिय गठबन्धन (NCADV) को तथ्यांकले देखाउँछ।
वुमन रिहाव्लिटेसन सेन्टर नेपालको सन् २०२२ को तथ्यांक अनुसार घरेलु हिंसा सम्वन्धी प्रहरीमा रिपोर्ट गरिएका मद्दाहरू मध्ये ६५ प्रतिशत हिंसा महिला माथि हुने गरेको छ भने ७७ प्रतिशत घरेलु हिंसा श्रीमानबाट हुने गरेकोछ।
त्यसैगरी, ९० प्रतिशत घरेलु हिंसा गर्ने पिडक पुरूष हुने गरेकोछ। उक्त तथ्यांकका अनुसार २९ प्रतिशत महिलाले शारीरिक हिंसा भोगेकाछन् भने १६ प्रतिशत महिलाले यौन हिंसा साथै ३५ प्रतिशत महिलाले जिनेजानेका छिमेकीबाट बलात्कृत हुनु परेको जनाईएकोछ।
उक्त रिपोर्ट सविस्तार पढ्नुहोस्ः https://www.worecnepal.org/uploads/publication/document/1190717651Annual%20Factsheet%20on%20Gender%20Based%20Violence_2022%20(2).pdf
घरेलु हिंसा भनेको के हो? यो कस्तो किसिमको अपराध हो? घरेलु हिंसाको लक्षणहरू के के हुन्? घरेलु हिंसाको रोकथाम कसरी गर्न सकिन्छ?
घरेलु हिंसा भनेको के हो?
संयुक्त राष्ट्र संघ (United Nations) को अनुसार घरेलु हिंसा भनेकोः “घरेलु दुर्व्यवहार, जसलाई "घरेलु हिंसा" वा "अन्तरंग पार्टनर हिंसा" पनि भनिन्छ, जसमा कुनै पनि आपसी सम्बन्धमा यस्तो व्यवहारको ढाँचाको रूपमा परिभाषित गर्न सकिन्छ जुन शक्ति प्राप्त गर्न वा कायम राख्न प्रयोग गरिन्छ र नजिकको पार्टनरमाथि नियन्त्रण गरिन्छ। यो दुर्व्यवहार भनेको शारीरिक, यौनजन्य, भावनात्मक, आर्थिक वा मनोवैज्ञानिकरूपमा वा अर्को व्यक्तिलाई धम्क्याउने कार्यहरू हो। यसमा कसैलाई डराउने, तर्साउने, आतंकित गर्ने, आफ्नो स्वार्थअनुरूप प्रयोग गर्ने, आघात पुर्याउने, अपमान गर्ने, दोष लगाउने, चोट पुर्याउने वा घाउ गर्ने कुनै पनि व्यवहारहरू मानिन्छ।” (Domestic abuse, also called "domestic violence" or "intimate partner violence", can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure, or wound someone.)
यो कस्तो किसिमको अपराध हो?
घरेलु हिंसा सामान्य दुर्व्यवहार (misdemeanor) र अपराध (felony) दुबै प्रकारका हुन्छन्। घरेलु हिंसा गर्ने व्यक्ति यो अपराधको गाम्भिर्यता हेरी अपराधको लागि जेल समेत जान सक्दछ। यसबारे सविस्तार जानकारी यो लिंकमा पढ्नुहोस्ः
थप उदाहरणको लागि न्यू जर्सी राज्यको घरेलु हिंसा सम्बन्धी व्यवस्था यस्तो छः https://nj.gov/njsp/division/operations/domestic-violence-info.shtml
घरेलु हिंसाको लक्षणहरू के के हुन्?
अमेरिकाको घरेलु हिंसासम्बन्धी राष्ट्रिय गठबन्धन (The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence) संस्थाका अनुसार घरेलु हिंसाको लक्षणहरू निम्नानुसार हुन्छन्ः
What Are the "Warning Signs" of an Abuser?
Red flags and warning signs of an abuser include but are not limited to:
Extreme jealousy
Possessiveness
Unpredictability
A bad temper
Cruelty to animals
Verbal abuse
Extremely controlling behavior
Antiquated beliefs about roles of women and men in relationships
Forced sex or disregard of their partner's unwillingness to have sex
Sabotage of birth control methods or refusal to honor agreed upon methods
Blaming the victim for anything bad that happens
Sabotage or obstruction of the victim's ability to work or attend school
Controls all the finances
Abuse of other family members, children or pets
Accusations of the victim flirting with others or having an affair
Control of what the victim wears and how they act
Demeaning the victim either privately or publicly
Embarrassment or humiliation of the victim in front of others
Harassment of the victim at work
For anonymous, confidential help available 24/7, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) now.
घरेलु हिंसाको रोकथाम कसरी गर्न सकिन्छ?
अमेरिकी सरकारको सेन्टर फर डिजिज कन्ट्रोल (CDC) का अनुसार घरेलु हिंसा रोक्क सकिन्छः “सबै प्रकारका नजिकको पार्टनर हिंसा रोक्न सकिन्छ। स्वस्थ, सम्मानजनक र अहिंसात्मक सम्बन्धहरू प्रवर्द्धन गर्ने रणनीतिहरू रोकथामको महत्त्वपूर्ण कुरा हुन्।” (All forms of intimate partner violence are preventable. Strategies to promote healthy, respectful, and nonviolent relationships are an important part of prevention.)
घरेलु हिंसाबारे थप जानकारी पढ्नुहोस्ः
What Traits Do Abusers Have in Common?
There is no one typical, detectable personality of an abuser. However, they do often display common characteristics.
An abuser often denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on the victim and other family members.
An abuser objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual objects.
An abuser has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world. He or she may appear successful, but internally, they feel inadequate.
An abuser externalizes the causes of their behavior. They blame their violence on circumstances such as stress, their partner's behavior, a "bad day," on alcohol, drugs, or other factors.
An abuser may be pleasant and charming between periods of violence and is often seen as a "nice person" to others outside the relationship.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV)
One study found 90% of abusers do not have criminal records and abusers are generally law-abiding outside the home.
On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.1
1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post-traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc.2
1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner. This includes a range of behaviors (e.g. slapping, shoving, pushing) and in some cases might not be considered "domestic violence." 1
1 in 7 women and 1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner.1
1 in 10 women have been raped by an intimate partner. Data is unavailable on male victims.1
1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence (e.g. beating, burning, strangling) by an intimate partner in their lifetime.1
1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.1
On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.9
The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%.10
Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.2
Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.2
19% of domestic violence involves a weapon.2
Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior.2
Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries.2
Domestic Violence by State 2023
“Domestic violence is a violent crime violence or abuse in a domestic setting, such as in cohabitation or marriage. Domestic violence is often used as a synonym for intimate partner violence, which involves a spouse or intimate partner in an intimate partner relationship.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any age and can occur in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships. Domestic violence can also include violence against children, parents, or the elderly and can take on several forms, including physical, verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse.”
“Domestic violence affects one's thoughts, feelings and behaviors and can significantly impact one's mental stability. Increased anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder and depression symptoms are commonly observed among survivors of domestic violence.
People who are exposed to domestic violence often experience physical, mental or spiritual shifts that can endure and worsen if they are not addressed. According to a study done by the Centers for Disease Control, nearly three in every 10 women—about 32 million—and one in 10 men in the United States who experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner reported at least one measured impact or effect related to forms of violent behavior in that relationship.”
“Domestic violence is a serious social problem and a national health concern with significant negative impacts on individuals and our communities.”
“Domestic violence is associated with depression, anxiety, PTSD and substance abuse in the general population.”
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